So why do some people abuse them in any way or kill them?

*Disclaimer: This may get rambly and go in all different directions. I get rambly when I get mad*

The Zahra Baker story really pisses me off. I live about two hours from Hickory, NC where the little girl lived with her father and step-mother. Her step-mother is guilty as sin in her murder. Her father isn’t a saint but I believe him when he says he had nothing to do with the murder of his daughter. I honestly hope he didn’t.

The whole case just really got me to thinking. Why do people abuse children (in any way – mental, phsyical, sexual)? Why do they kill them? Don’t they know that there are plenty of women/men/couples out there that can’t have children and would LOVE to have a child/children? Kids are a gift from God but sometimes God doesn’t give that gift for whatever reason.

What did Zahra Baker do that made her step-mother so mad that she ended up killing her? How could her step-mother do such a thing to a innocent little child who had already been through so much with the cancer?

Not all step-mothers are mean and evil like Zahra Bakers step-mother. I should know, I am one. Well almost one but still, you get my point. Even though my step-kids mother would probably tell you different, I am not mean and evil. (Their mother is a whole different blog post.) I love my step-kids like they were my own. Yeah, there are times when they get on my nerves and whatnot but I still wouldn’t lay a finger on them. They’re not mine to discipline…that’s their fathers job.

While we are on the subject of discipline, there is a fine line between spanking and abuse. Now, I’m from the South. I got my tail spanked. Now that I am older, I look back and say yes I deserved those spankings. I was a little hellion back then. My mama had a belt that she carried with her throughout the house that was her “weapon” of choice. But my mother never beat me. She only slapped my mouth once in my life. I learned after that. You woulda thought I would have learned after the spankings but yeah, hard headed me didn’t. Spanking, to me, is fine as long as it’s not as hard as you can or leaves a bruise. If it leaves a bruise, then it falls on the abuse side. Leaving black eyes, holding on to an arm as hard as you can so it leaves a bruise, etc. fall under abuse to me.

Mentally abusing a child is cruel, as well. You could just outright mentally abuse a child or you can do it without even knowing it. Kids hear more than you think they do. I know a few mothers that have said things to their kids, like “you know what you’re doing in your schoolwork, don’t be stupid” or “you’re too fat to wear that”, etc. to their children without even thinking. And the children think that they are stupid or fat or whatever. I think everybody is guilty of this in some way, whether they mean to or not.

I won’t even get into sexual abuse of children. That makes my blood boil just about as much as murder.

The reason I get so mad about abuse/killing of kids is, because of my surgeries, there is a slim chance that I may not be able to get pregnant. Just a slim chance, but still. The thought is there in the back of my mind. And when/if I do get pregnant, it will be a high risk pregnancy. So when I read/hear of something like the Zahra Baker case, it just pisses me off because there are people out there that take having kids for granted when there are people out there that would LOVE to have a child or two.

(I apologize if this post sucks but I told you I get rambly and make no sense when I get pissed off.)

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